Mother’s Day started out as a pretty good day. I woke up very grateful for the mother I’ve been blessed to have all my life. In fact, I preached about how grateful I was before many others at church. Everything was great until nerve pain began to surge throughout my body. I’m talking about the kind that makes my entire inside feel like I’m on fire, but nothing will put out the flame.
It’s in these moments that I find I’m desperate to find someone who truly understands my pain. It’s in these moments that I feel the most misunderstood. I find that my words can’t make someone else understand what they’ve never experienced. I find that their lack of understanding only makes me feel more misunderstood. In fact, it just simply makes me feel totally uncomfortable in my own skin.
Now, I’ve come to the conclusion that there is no one to be upset with concerning this matter. I’ve also concluded that it’s during such critical moments that we each desperately need to be understood. We all long for someone to recognize our pain and encourage us through our pain. And, I believe this can only happen when the person in front of us can truly identify.
Ever since chronic nerve pain has interrupted my life I’ve found myself drawn to others who have similar pain. When I run into anyone who can really identify it settles my soul deeply. Why? Because we both speak similar language. We both know what it’s like to go day after day just wishing for that particular pain to go away. We both know what it’s like to pray every night that we aren’t up all night.
You see, we all need to feel that we can confess our struggles without being judged. We all need to bare our souls without being misunderstood. And, we all just need to get certain things off of our chest before we explode. I’ve concluded that this is done best when the person in front of you not only cares about your pain, but can identify with your pain. Whatever your pain the encouragement of others is critical. I encourage you to find your tribe and those people who can truly understand your struggle and encourage you through your present battle.
(2 Corinthians 1:3-4)(NLT) 3 All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.