Let me begin by saying this is far from my wife’s idea. She has no clue I’m about to tell the world what makes her so awesome. Honestly, she would rather be punched in the face repeatedly than to be swarmed by recognition. That is just one more reason I love her.
What in the world is a P.H.T. Award? I actually never knew myself until around 2001. The seminary I received my Masters Degree from in Fort Worth, Texas sent this certificate to my wife Aimee. P.H.T. stands for Putting Him Through. I still find it very thoughtful that even others recognized the significance of my wife’s support.
Thinking about this award has prompted me the reasons she deserves this award. I could share a million ways she has touched my heart and gotten me through so much. But, here are five things that makes her an above average “First Lady.”
#1 She Never Leaves Me Lonely. No one gets married to be alone. You get married in hopes that you can share life together. My wife has never made me feel alone or left my side. In a day and age when people leave at the first sign of difficulty, I would say she is above average. I’ve said many times that since I got married years ago, I’ve never had even a feeling of loneliness.
#2 She Understands Real Love. She has actually taught me by her example what real love is. I’ve learned from her that talk is cheap, but love is an action verb. She realizes that love is more than just feelings or words. Her daily love demonstrates the following traits that God’s word says define real love.
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
#3 She Meant Her Vows. You know that part of your wedding ceremony. We said, “For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, for better or worse. To you I pledge my love.” She continues to love me at my worst, when my health is failing, when my attitude stinks, and when the bank account comes close to empty. None of these things has changed her commitment or the demonstration of her unconditional love.
#4 She Always Makes Time For Me. Of course, we both love our four boys dearly. And, yes they demand a lot of her time and energy. Yet, she doesn’t just live for the kids. She continues to be my help mate, my best friend, and the love of my life. We still date, have adult talk, and grow closer daily. She realizes that one day the kids will be grown and it will just be the two of us contuining to grow old together. Hopefully we’ll have matching rocking chairs!
#5 She Supports Me Unconditionally. Many underrate the power of support. I know firsthand what it means for someone to believe in you when you’ve lost belief in yourself. I know what it means for someone to support you from a dark place back to a happier place. You name it my wife has done it. And, it only makes me love her more.
Over the years, we’ve made a lot of big moves and sacrifices together. We’ve actually moved all of our belongings & family at least 14 different times as we’ve followed God’s dream for our lives. Many see things that I’ve accomplished and things I do. But, let me assure you that behind any good man is an even greater woman. Therefore, my wife Aimee Crosby is more than deserving of her P.H.T. award.
Some reading this don’t get the recognition you deserve. Don’t ever think your love, support, sacrifice and commitment are meaningless. God sees it all and others appreciate your efforts. Your role is just as important as what those you support are doing.
(Ecclesiastes 4:9-10) Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.