Awhile back I was at my 12 year old’s last football game of the season. Suddenly I heard a lady shouting behind me. Someone had just laid a big hit on a kid and she yelled out, “Mother F….., that was a hit.” I couldn’t help but whip my head around to see who just said this with all the kids in our midst. Very quickly I turned my head back forward and tried to act as if I did not hear the careless words of this mother.
Just moments later I heard this same lady holler out, “Yes, I said it. What you gonna do about it? I finally turned around and said, “Mam, are you talking to me?” She said, “Yes, I saw you look back here like you’ve got a problem with me.” Honestly, I tried to contain myself and act like a prim and proper preacher should act, but I’m not sure I succeeded.
I was like, “Mam, I don’t have a problem with you. I just don’t expect to hear words like that coming out of any adults mouth especially around children.” As she bobbed her head several times she only got more fired up that I said anything. I was like “Mam, I wouldn’t think any grown up would see it appropriate to use such language at the ball field or at home around their kids.” She proceeded to tell me that “I control what I say and I control what my kids say. And you can’t do anything about it sir.”
As my temperature rose, I just had to make one thing clear. That the only thing she was controlling was the fact that her kids would grow up and most likely be just like her. Full of attitude, anger, and many careless words just like their mother. After all, statistics say that 85% of children will follow in their parents footsteps. And, if the apple don’t fall far from that tree its bound to be rotten.
Now, I’m not one of those preachers or Christians that run around trying to be the “Sin Police.” But, this situation just found its way to me and I felt like I had to speak up to this lady who looked like a bobble head doll. She found nothing wrong with her words and even more important the example she was being to the younger ones around her.
Yes, I know it’s a free country and you can say what you want to say and do what you want to do. However, it doesn’t mean it’s right and that many consequences won’t follow. Parents, adults, and for sure professing Christians may we all think before we speak. May we do nothing that could cause any little one to stumble or be misled. And, may we always know that our lives are preaching a sermon to all those we encounter.
And, lady at the ball field if you’re reading this THANKS. Thanks for giving me a reason to address a subject matter that needs to be addressed by many so called grown ups who think their actions don’t matter. This has reminded me how much it matters that I set a Godly example for my boys both inside and outside the home.
Jesus said, “”If anyone causes one of these little ones–those who believe in me–to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea. – Mark 9:42)
“I have the right to do anything,” you say–but not everything is beneficial..”- 1 Corinthians 10:23