You feel like everything is coming down on you at once. It’s hard to breath, to see beyond what’s in front of you and everything within you just wants to yell, “I QUIT.” Been there, done that, got several T-shirts. I bet anyone who has ever taken on the noble task of commitment or leadership has been there. Here are some suggestions on what to do when quitting is not an option.
#1 Remember what you’re fighting for.
I’ll never forget a gentlemen who was about to take his own life. He had the gun in hand, bullets to spare, and said he had enough of this life. While on the phone with him I pondered what I could say that might change his mind. I asked, “Do you have any pictures in your wallet?” He said, I do and he pulled out a wallet size photo of his little boy. I said, “Sir, look at that little boy, who you know loves you very much. He is worth fighting for.” This man agreed and began weeping. He said, “My boy would not know what to do if I took my life.” My friends many times we need to remember what we’re fighting for in order to make the journey worthwhile. Whether a marriage, a child, or any other cause much greater than yourself, remember what you’re fighting for. This will motivate you when many things fail.
#2 Increase Your Support Group
It’s been said, “No man is an island.” And, no man alone will be able to accomplish great things alone. Too often our pride keeps us from reaching out for help. Many leader types are guilty of trying to put the whole world on their shoulders. Be honest with those around you. Many times those nearest to you can see that your plate is full and they are just looking for a way to help. Be honest about your limitations, the fact that you are overwhelmed, and your need for others to step up. People who genuinely care about you and the mission will step up to the plate.
#3 Adjust Your Approach
You’ve heard it said, “If at first you don’t succeed then try, try, try again. Life is a series of adjustments as we live and learn what is best. Sometimes, we have to punt the ball away and live to play another down. Every day will not go as smooth as others. Sometimes we discover that how we are going about things just isn’t the best for us or those around us. Ponder and seek advice and how you might adjust your approach to life and reduce some stress in the process.
#4 Get Some Rest
It’s been said, “You can’t fix stupid.” Well, it’s definitely true that you can’t fix tired except to get some much needed rest. Take it from someone who has tried to keep going and going even when my body was exhausted. Being tired affects everything from your energy, your perspective, and your ability to deal with adversity. If you need to take a few days off work, take them. If you need to get in the bed early, get in it. I’ve often said, you should never make a big decision when you know you are too tired to think straight.
#5 Pray About Everything
Too often we plan before we pray. Too often we talk to everyone else about our problems, but we’ve not really lifted those burdens up to our almighty, all-knowing, all-loving God. (Philippians 4:6-7) says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and mind in Christ Jesus.
#6 Realize, you are not alone.
Too many times we think we’re the only one on the planet that has hit a brick wall. Anyone who has ever succeeded before us has failed, gotten frustrated, and felt like giving up. The difference between those who succeed and those who do not is staying the course. Wake up every day and ask God for direction, strength, wisdom, and to continue to carry you through the storms of this life. If you know you’re where God wants you to be, doing what God wants you to do, keep moving forward.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”(Galatians 6:9)