I bet you didn’t’ know that I have four kids and my wife has five. Some people have wondered if our house is a zoo, I would like to confirm those thoughts to be accurate. Ok I must admit that we don’t have nine kids, but my wife does count me as one of her boys. She actually says I am not only the biggest, but by far the highest maintenance. This post is not about information, but giving affirmation to a woman I dearly love and value.
Aimee and I dated for 4 ½ years and have now been married for 15 years come this August 23rd. During this time we have been blessed with four boys who are very close to turning 13, 11, 9, and then you have Asher who is a 2 ½ year old bundle of energy. Needless to say, they keep us busy. In fact, one of us stays really, really busy. Her name is Aimee Crosby. I wanted to take the time to give this more than deserving tribute to my wife.
First of all, her support is off the charts. I knew before I ever got married that I would have to marry someone way beyond average if they were to endure the ups and downs of being a pastor’s wife. We have physically moved our entire family and belongings ELEVEN times in only 15 years of marriage. Our biggest leap was when we moved to Fort Worth, Texas while our first son was only five months old. My wife has supported me through college, seminary, youth ministry, church planting, and now hospice chaplaincy. She has stood by my side when others would have run away and she has loved me when others would have only been bitter.
Secondly, she defines “Real Love”. Aimee has taught me true love not by what she says, but what she embodies. As, a 94 year old lady once told me, “Pastor, love is such is strong word.” Yes, I have been as guilty as any of just using love as a word. I recall that moment a little over five years ago that I realized my wife was not the problem, but that I had a lot to learn from her. From her I have learned that “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Some people talk a lot (That’s me) and then some people love a lot (That’s her). It is the love displayed greatest that speaks the loudest. I have come to understand that my wife may not be as verbally expressive as me, but her actions speak for themselves.
Finally, she is irreplaceable! I admit that in the past I have joked that if something happened to her, I would quickly remarry. Well, maybe I would and maybe I wouldn’t. Actually, I don’t want to think about life without her. What I do know is that I will never find someone with such love, support, and patience to put up with me and all that goes with my calling in this life. You see, Aimee does not see us as individuals, but as partners in this life. She knows that we are a team and has always gladly been willing to play her irreplaceable part behind the scenes. Nothing against many other ladies, but she is not one of those ladies who demands things her way. She is not one of those people who thinks “Me first” in a me first world. She just wakes up each day and seeks to be the best wife she can be and the best mother our kids could as for in this life.
Some of you may never get the opportunity to meet my wife Aimee or to know what she does behind the scenes. But, trust me when I tell you that she is more than just my bride of 15 years. She is why someone came up with the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman.” Aimee Crosby I love you and appreciate you more than you will ever know.